There’s No Use Reasoning With a Rock, or a Toddler!

7 Feb

Spend less time talking and more time acting.

Do not try to reason with a toddler. You’re better off reasoning with a rock.

Big Rock

Can you reason with HIS bad behavior?

To young children, words are just sounds coming from your mouth. They have no real substance to them yet.

If your child is behaving badly…

Actions, such by picking him up and carrying him to another location, provide a clear message.

Yelling from the other side of the room means nothing!

Get up off the couch, stop talking, and start doing!

TRY THESE TIPS:

1. Provide lots of supervision, distractions and re-directions – Minimize your words and maximize your actions.
Quietly take your child by the hand and lead him to where he needs to go.
Show him what he can do instead of what he can’t do.

2. Staying engaged the right way – Some actions may only make matters worse:
– slapping his hand, yelling “no-no,” and engaging in a stare down
ALL =
an invitation for a child to keep their entertaining adult engaged with them.

3. Offer choices – Having choices gives children a sense of power: They have the power to choose one possibility or another.

Try a method and let us know the result.

Nip It In The Bud – Or Be Eaten By The Plant!

6 Feb

How often do you find yourself attending to the “bad” behaviors of your children or students?

It is better to give positive attention to the things our children or students do appropriately, increasing the likelihood that these good and desirable things will increase.

By attending to inappropriate behavior we are far more likely to increase its frequency and intensity

than we are to “nip it in the bud” — We strengthen the very behavior we want to eliminate.

And that behavior will grow to this:

Evil Plant

Evil Plant

Posting Every Week in 2011

5 Feb

We’ve decided to blog more! We will be posting on this blog once a week for all of 2011.

We know it won’t be easy, but it might be fun, inspiring, awesome and wonderful. Therefore we will promising to make use of The DailyPost, and the community of other bloggers with similar goals, to help along the way.

If you already read the blog, We hope you’ll encourage us with comments and likes, and good will along the way.

Thank you,

Turning Point Behavioral Services

Sue Weeks BCBA
Jen Rumfola BCBA

I Argued With A Pig And Won!

5 Feb

Avoid arguments or providing verbal attention such as talking about the behavior during the protest. Only state clear re-directions pertaining to the behavior you want to see. For example: “QUIET”, “Sit down”, “Go to your room”, “Control you body”.

In the words of Dr. Jay Berk, “Arguing with a child motivated by attention is like mud wrestling with a pig – you both get muddy and the pig loves it.”

He LOVES it!

Strengthen Good Behavior – Weaken Bad Behavior

31 Jan

Behavior is typically strengthened by attention (positive or negative). Attempt to go out of your way to have positive, pleasant interactions with your child or student – catch them being good!

Protecting Your Goat! (Not the animal kind)

30 Jan

Let’s talk behavior, my favorite subject.

I spend much of my day observing and attempting to understand why someone may be “behaving” in a certain way.
Behavior can be overt – publicly observable OR covert – observable only to the person engaging in the behavior such as thinking.

As parents and teachers it is the observable behaviors that will get our attention and at time will get our “goat”.

Focus on why Suzie is behaving in a certain way rather than just how the behavior looks will help you determine how to respond.